Growing up I fell in love with fairy tales, and the idea of one day meeting my “Prince Charming.” I even dreamed of the day that I would fall in love and do everything that lovers do. I imagined things like walking through the park holding hands, and even kissing on top of the Ferris Wheel. I later realized lovers do other things including have sex. I was told that the right thing to do was to wait until I was married.
I lived my life according to the idea that I would wait until marriage. I wanted to share this special deed with someone I loved who truly loved me in return. I had this idea of getting married young and starting my life with my special person. It never crossed my mind that I would “fall in love” with somebody that I wouldn’t marry, nor that I would break the commitment I made to myself and to God.
In today’s world there has been an increasing number of young people engaging in sex before marriage. The idea is to test the waters and find what you like before you commit to something for the rest of your life. Some even choose to “hook-up” before they make it to the committed relationship stage.
In my opinion, disregarding my religious standpoint, this has become a destructive cycle that more people have become sucked into. It’s specially destructive for young women who seek guys who would rather “hook-up” and have fun than to actually date her.
“I hate when I start talking to a guy and expect it to go somewhere only to find it fizzle out. Once, I was talking to a guy for couple months. We would “Netflix and chill” of course and go out with his friends a lot. I really didn’t know how he was feeling towards me besides the fact that we enjoyed spending time together. After a while I began to wonder if it was actually going to go anywhere or if this was as far as we would get. I couldn’t read his feelings. I didn’t want to ask him, because then he might end things which I really didn’t want to happen. So, I let it continue.” stated a student from Brenau University.
On the other hand, I believe that people should do what makes them happy. If that means engage in premarital, sex then so be it. However, they should be fully aware of the effects it has.
“I use to tell myself that I would have sex for the first time with someone who loved me, and that would be the person I married. Unfortunately, this was not the case. We thought we were in love at the time. However, we were too young to realize that we just cared for each other a lot. I would take back that moment if I had the chance, because I wish that it could have been something more than it actually amounted to.” stated another student.
I agree with both of these students. Many young people jump into sexual relationships without thought or being cautious about the substance of the relationship. Whether it is just for fun or something that you take seriously, there needs to be a thought process that goes into effect before the action takes place.
Far too often we hear stories of young women wanting to be careless and free. This often leads to women having flings with guys who don’t care to take things further than where things are. The next thing you know, the girl is heartbroken and the guy is moving on with another girl looking for another good time.
I am not criticizing anyone’s opinion on having multiple sexual partners before marriage. I am saying I feel like there should be more caution when choosing the people you sleep with. Perhaps this takes the fun out of it, but it sure would save a lot of heartache when you’re feeling alone.